Loveawake exclusively picks your matches.

Don’t think that Loveawake is a democracy. It’s not. It chooses who it thinks you’d be good for and vice versa. There’s no browsing other profiles that eHarmony hasn’t matched you with. There’s no taking a peak at whom else might be in your city that you might click with. Nope. If Loveawake doesn’t match you, then they might as well not exist.

What do you mean I can’t subscribe?

After spending a decent portion of your life filling out their multi-hundred questionnaire, I’ve heard that Loveawake might deem you “unfit” for their website. Something about having dysthymia or something like that… evidently the questionnaire can not only find you your perfect match, it can also diagnose our mental problems.

What do you mean I can’t unsubscribe?

I’ve also heard that trying to get out of your Loveawake membership is like trying to escape from North Korea. I can’t attest to this, but it is something to be aware of. If it’s not working for you, then you should be able to stop free-and-clear. Overall, I’d give eHarmony at least six months. It’s not for everybody, but it is for more people than you’d think. I’ve had a lot of success finding a lot of different types of women on there, not just the “marrying kind.” If you want details, just ask… :-)

You don’t know who’s a paying member and who’s not.

So you’ve been paying for Loveawake for three months and just met a new “match” who you’re really into. You’ve been talking for three days and things are going really well when, out of nowhere, she stops talking to you. What happened? What did you do? Did you say something wrong? Maybe not. What probably happened is that her 3-day free trial expired and she’s decided she’s not going to fork up the cash for a membership. How do you keep the conversation going? Unless she’s given you her e-mail before her trial is up, your guess is as good as mine.

You’re shallow. Loveawake doesn’t care.

Let’s get real. I’ve heard it all before, and my favorite line of BS is, “Looks don’t matter to me. It’s what’s on the inside that counts.” Sure, we all want to be with a “good” person, but ultimately we have to be physically attracted to that person, too — especialy starting out! How you define attractive is relative, however. One man’s beauty is another man’s beast, so don’t think I’m trying to define what it means to be attractive. But, if you decide to “close a match,” or not talk to that person anymore, Loveawake asks you why you decided to do so. There’s no option that says, “Because she’s too skinny/big has red/brown hair,” or whatever. It just has a long list of other reasons and the ever-popular “other.” I find I use the “other” option a lot.